Selfish persons aren’t capable of loving others, but they’re not capable of enjoying themselves. Being selfish is not good but being self-centered is worse since you never learn how to listen to other men and women.
Everybody deserves to a opportunity to reach a fantasy no matter how impossible it looks. However, some folks feel that they might not have the ability to reach them and that is why they save all of their resources to themselves to ease some of the insecurities. A lot of selfish people have unmet expectations that make them feel insecure resulting to dread of confidence and lack of control over their lives.
If someone does not care about anyone else, he/she is not likely to be very responsive to you whatsoever besides evaluating how you can satisfy their his/her needs. They love only themselves. Selfish people are mean and they’re good for nothing. They’re concerned only about themselves. They’re expecting people to reach out or act in a manner that suits them.
Understanding doesn’t mean letting them off the hook. But if you can get behind the behavior and discover what motivates it, you will have a better likelihood of responding in a manner that might make it less powerful. We often make assumptions about what motivates people but those assumptions are often inaccurate. These people make decisions that benefit them. They do not give a damn what the impact this could have on others.
Dealing with these kinds of people isn’t easy but the first step in dealing with them effectively is to better understand what causes them to act that way in the first place. Don’t take them personally. A selfish person always puts their particular needs. The problem arises only when we do things for ourselves at the expense of others. Whenever you make life hard for other people to satisfy your ends, then that type of selfishness is the selfishness that you want to avoid. Putting yourself first is not selfish. But thinking about yourself is selfish.
At the moment, it has become increasingly important for people to think about themselves before others. It turns into a status quo and the foundation of this society. There is not any need to be distressed by the situation of the contemporary society. Be certain you develop a personality that may adjust well to demands of this generation.
In my case, its good to be a bit selfish, instead of being completely selfless. When you are too concerned with others and help them when they’re in need, you create them parasite and dependent upon you. More likely than not, when you need help, nobody gives a damn about you.
So, instead of being upset about people’s selfish behavior accept that it’s crucial for survival as long as it doesn’t cause any kind of harm to any anybody including you!